1. Kuchh Nahi Badla Hai Through three small tales, one from mythology, one from south of India and one from some History texts’ we realise that while we keep talking of development and evolution; while the world moved from reality to the world wide web; as far as humans are concerned – Nothing really has […]
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1. Kuchh Nahi Badla Hai Through three small tales, one from mythology, one from south of India and one from some History texts’ we realise that while we keep talking of development and evolution; while the world moved from reality to the world wide web; as far as humans are concerned – Nothing really has […]
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By Paonam Thoibi `Anxiety isn`™t always a bad thing; it helps you stay alert and focused` Q: I have heard so much about Anxiety Disorder. Also most of the people
By Paonam Thoibi
`Anxiety isn`™t always a bad thing; it helps you stay alert and focused`
Q: I have heard so much about Anxiety Disorder. Also most of the people I come across at, workplace seem to be having anxiety related to work stress, family etc. Are we all suffering from anxiety? Do we all need treatment, counseling or therapy? Name withheld
Ans: Anxiety is the body`™s natural response to danger, an automatic alarm that goes off when you feel threatened, under pressure, or are facing a stressful situation. It is something which everyone experiences.
In moderation, anxiety isn`™t always a bad thing. It helps you stay alert and focused. But when anxiety is constant or overwhelming, when it interferes with your relationships and activities, when it gets characterised by marked negative effect, bodily symptoms of tension, restlessness, increased heart beat and muscle tension- that`™s when people should check if they are suffering from Anxiety Disorder.
There are different types of Anxiety Disorders and each of them is managed with specific treatment procedures- often a combination of both psychopharmacological interventions (medicines) along with psychological therapeutic intervention.
The major types of Anxiety Disorder are: Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD), Specific phobia (sometimes called simple phobia), Social phobia, Panic attack, Obsessive- compulsive disorder (OCD), Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
If at all you are disturbed by the amount of anxiety you are having, it is strictly recommended that you have a checkup at the nearest health facility center. You may need to measure the level of stress and accordingly start a management plan.
Q: Dear Madam, I am doing my general Arts stream studies now. I am really interested to do my masters in Psychology and try to become a Counselor. I love understanding people and their behavior but also know that this is not enough. What are the other characteristics or qualities one should have to become an efficient counselor? `“Subalaxmi, Kwakeithel.
Ans: Dear Subalaxmi, it is very good to know that many people are preparing to get into this helping profession. I believe you must be having all the qualities that are required to become a good counselor. The interest to become one is the first and foremost quality that will take you through the long and hard journey to become a skilled counselor.
I`™m sure you must know that to be a counselor, you need a lot `“ and I say again, a lot of Patience. It may take time for anyone you come across to accept certain things and pain in their lives and still more time to move towards positive changes. You should not be tired to discuss something wholeheartedly many times before they are prepared to make a move in any particular direction. Also, small incremental progress in your client`™s life should be noticed and rejoiced. A good listening skill is required as you will do more listening than talking. Yes, counseling is not talking nicely; it is more of listening with understanding. You should give your client time to express their feelings, confusion, doubts, emotions, anger etc. An ability to empathise- or understanding the way your client is feeling- exactly. Also, compassionately respond to their complaints about their problems. They should feel that you truly care about them. Even if you don`™t agree with their perspective, you still need the ability to understand how it feels to them in order to address their issue effectively. However, it`™s important that you are not too empathetic. Some people struggle as counselors because they are unable to maintain objectivity and therefore carry home the emotional stress of the job. The level of empathy necessary can be a fine line between helpful to client and harmful to counselor
When you are not yet a counselor, you must know that a genuine concern yields positive results. A nonjudgmental attitude is a must in counseling. Counselors hear all kinds of private information and encounter all types of people. You may hear dark secrets from someone`™s past involving such things as sexual or criminal behavior. You must do you best to refrain from judgment and instead communicate positively- respecting them as a person. You must also not push your cultural or religious views upon them. Multicultural competency is a necessary skill.
Confidentiality is of upmost importance when you are a counselor. You must be able to maintain confidentiality so the client can trust you with their most intimate concerns. Lastly, self- awareness about your own fears, insecurities, and weaknesses will be effective in the therapeutic relationship. It is important that you do not react defensively to what a client shares. You must be able to keep your own feelings out of the session. You will be better able to do this if you are self-aware. In addition, self-aware individuals are more intuitive with regards to solving their own problems and can use that knowledge to help clients through similar situations.
I would really encourage you to take up this profession and see how fulfilling it is both personally and professionally.
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By Paonam Thoibi “It is believed that people who are suicidal want the pain to end but not their life itself” Q 1. Madam, I recently saw a legal counseling
By Paonam Thoibi
“It is believed that people who are suicidal want the pain to end but not their life itself”
Q 1. Madam, I recently saw a legal counseling programme on the local cable TV. The host of the programme who is also a lawyer was taking interview of a rape victim family. He himself declared that the identity and address of the victim will not be disclosed. But in the same programme he took interviews of the victim’s mother, victim’s sis-in-law and lastly the of the victim with her face morphed. He repeatedly mentioned that the victim is ‘maraibakthirabi’ and asked so many questions repeatedly. He was not only making mockery of the programme but he was actually re-victimising the victim. Just sharing some thoughts through your column.
-A Menaka, Khagempali.
Ans: Dear Menaka, I understand the anguish you have expressed and can understand the futility of the situation which the survivor of the unfortunate incident and the family members must have gone through. But before we jump into any conclusions its better if we can know the very purpose of the programme that you mentioned. It may be also possible that the survivor’s consent is taken and she is well aware of the whole programme beforehand.
But whatever the objective of the programme you are still right in bringing up the phenomena of‘re-victimisation’ or traumatisation of a person who had already undergone a horrific event. Many a times, no matter how well intentioned helpers may be some of our ways go wrong and this is just one instance. It may well point to lack of professional ethics and sensibility. This will do more harm than good as it had originally intended.
However, I would be limited in my comments and suggestion and encourage you to address your concern through this paper in the letter to the editor or directly to the legal counseling firm.
I appreciate your sincere thoughts.
Q: Dear Madam, even though I don’t know the correct numbers and figures, I think the rate of suicide is ever increasing. We do not really have suicide hotlines or suicide first aid centres. I want to know how having a hotline service or suicide counseling centres would help in this menace. Kindly share us some of the causes of people committing suicide so that we may be aware of it may prevent it in our best possible way.
-Student, K.V Langjing
Ans: Your question is a very thoughtful one and revolves around an issue which challenges all of us mental health professionals. Suicide as we all know is a self-inflicted death in which one makes an intentional, direct, and conscious effort to end one’s life. People commit or attempts suicide for many reasons, most of which no one knows. Mostly these are people in crisis –that is, under great stress, unable to cope, feeling threatened or hurt, and interpreting their situations as unchangeable.
Also, families of people who die by suicide report that they have some kind of psychiatric disorder, most commonly depression or bipolar disorder. The other major risk factors include substance use and abuse. A previous suicide attempt is another major risk factor and a number of people who successfully commits suicide have made a previous attempt. The loss of meaningful relationships and issues related to sexual identity or sexual orientation can also be reasons which can get people trapped in the depression which can lead to suicides. It is said that people who are suicidal somehow are telling people and reaching out in a way they that they are looking for some relief. Most of the time before the attempt they are said to be telling their close friends how they want to end their life and even how they have planned it. Therefore it is believed that people who are suicidal want the pain to end but not their life itself. It is on this logic that suicide centres and hotlines for suicide prevention are enforced. Mental health professionals can try to help people work through that intense psychological pain and find a way through it. The centers can try to help suicidal people perceive things more accurately, make better decisions, act more constructively, and overcome their crisis. Once a person with suicide risk is identified, intervention can start at the centre by a visit or quickly through a phone call which can skillfully be developed into a proper psychotherapeutic meeting very soon. The mental health professionals can take the opportunity to gather more information about actual risk, such as determining whether the client has an actual plan and the means to carry out the plan. The professional can challenge the irrational belief if the client’s life will be better if he/she commits the suicide. Also, crises can occur at any time, therefore the centers should ideally have a 24-hour-a-day telephone service (“hot lines”) and also welcome clients to walk in without prior appointments.
Also we should be aware that after a suicide attempt, the victims’ primary need is medical care. Some are left with severe injuries, brain damage, or other medical problems. Once the physical damage is reversed, or at least stabilized, a process of psychotherapy may begin. The goal of therapy is to help the client achieve a non-suicidal state of mind and develop more constructive ways of handling stress and solving problems.
All said and done, a good communication system in the family and the environment which has a foundation in good education and proper social and moral support can prevent many suicide deaths.
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LS Election Manipur: Yes or no to NOTA, what voters are saying? Democracy is all about choices and election in majoritarian electoral system is a game of numbers. For the
Electronic Voting Machine (Credit: Election Commission of India)
LS Election Manipur: Yes or no to NOTA, what voters are saying?
Democracy is all about choices and election in majoritarian electoral system is a game of numbers. For the first time in India’s more than 6-decade-long history of democracy, voters have been empowered with None Of The Above (NOTA) option or popularly known as the right to reject candidates. Unlike previous polls in Manipur, the runup 16th Lok Sabha election is fused with a strange air of NOTA, frustration of voters and their anger against the legislators, who failed keep pre-poll promises.
Following a landmark verdict, the Supreme Court of India ordered to apply NOTA button on voting machines on 27th September, 2013. The discussion for NOTA is doing the round and youths from the state have dared even to initiate a campaign- “Vote-for-NOTA-in-Manipur-Kangleipak” (NOTACACom). The humming buzz evidently signals that a chunk of voters largely youths are likely to use NOTA option to show their rejection of contestants for the election scheduled to be held on 17th April, 2014.
When asked about his view, Laiphrakpam Herojit (25) of Hingthang, Imphal West, who is going to vote for the first time opines, “the right to reject and privacy is what the voters needs. NOTA will be very helpful.”
In a recent interview conducted by Kanglaonline, voters especially youngsters hail the verdict of the apex court and said that it is a boon to the citizens of India.
While stating that NOTA has no sense till now and has no power, Goutam Ningombam, UGC-JRF, PhD Scholar, Department of Chemistry, Manipur University said, “I think we should vote for the one we trust and waste no votes. If want a change, we should exercise our right instead of bargaining the rate of vote. If the elected person fails to maintain our aspirations, we can simply stop cooperating in future.”
The crux is that decision of the voters is what that will shape the future. The unity and honesty of the citizens should be built instead of pressing NOTA. When the voters create positive perspectives things will turn out to be positive, the 29-year-old research scholar from Moirang, Bishnupur district added.
Emphasizing that exercising franchise is the right and duty of every eligible citizen of India, Pramod Ningombam (35), senior journalist said it is one way to make choices about how we want our life to be. Though we understand the candidates to be ‘devils’ in different forms, we have no choice but to choose the ‘lesser devil’.
He also suggests that we all should go for the candidate with the lesser devil in himself/herself.
Hrishikesh Angomcha (28), Sub-Editor, Hueiyen Lanpao (English Edition) also believes that the option is good, but not purposeful. “The candidates will be elected based on the highest number of votes secured no matter how many voted for NOTA.”
Dr. K Chandra (identity changed on condition of anonymity) said that since we are the ones, who made politicians corrupt, the only option to make them uncorrupt is NOTA because if elected, they will become corrupt again.
“Many responsible citizens will be opting for NOTA this time because there is none who deserves. The past decades speak it and all of a sudden, we can’t find an honest and responsible candidate just a few days ahead of elections. Before claiming as honest to the people, one needs to be honest to oneself first,” the 32-year old young AIMS medical post graduate said.
Salam Herojit (34) of Nambol, Bishnupur district welcomes the provision and at the same time he appeals the Election Commission of India and NGOs to create awareness about the power and adverse effect of this button across the country.
“It won’t be exaggerating to say that an effective use of NOTA to the extend that it creates an impact on Indian election is a far-fetch dream,” Herojit said.
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Progress report of MPs from the Northeastern states of India: Report At last the progress report of our Member of Parliament has come out. For the past five years, we
Progress report of MPs from the Northeastern states of India: Report
At last the progress report of our Member of Parliament has come out. For the past five years, we have been wondering what they exactly do inside the parliament house during sessions?
Being an elector, it is our responsibility to check the performance of elected persons, who assume the role of emissaries in the national capital. And, in turn elected persons should respect the aspiration of the people and act as per the wish of the mass. While representing the views and aspirations of the people of their constituency in Parliament, MPs should participate actively in the legislative, financial and other business of the parliament. In a broader sense they are the representatives of the state and the nation as a whole.
Parliament of India:
A report on the Performance of the MPs from North-eastern States of India
We can check the performance of our MPs by analyzing the way how they engage themselves in the parliamentary business using mechanisms like Debate, Questions and Private Member Bills by which MPs fulfill their responsibilities. Besides, attendance during Parliament Sessions also indicates the commitment to give effect to his/her role.
Altogether, there are 25 constituencies in the eight Northeastern states of Arunachal Pradesh, Assam, Manipur, Meghalaya, Mizoram, Nagaland, Sikkim and Tripura.
Let’s have a look at their progress reports.
Among the northeastern states, Manipur has the highest average attendance of 98%. Encouragingly, Thokchom Meinya, Lok Sabha MP from Inner Manipur constituency has attendance record of 99% in all 16 parliamentary sessions, according to PRS Legislative Research.
Meinya participated in 55 debates (Bills). The teacher-turned MP from Inner Manipur constituency is listed among the top 10 MPs, who attend the parliament regularly. He asked 204 questions including 17 starred and moved one Private Members Bill-”The Constitution (Amendment) Bill, 2012 (Insertion of new article 371CA).” His Private Members Bill is yet to see the light of the day.
Attendance of Thangso Baite (Outer Manipur) is 98%; just 1% behind from his counterpart from Inner Manipur Constituency. On contrary to his good attendance record, the MP participated only in 3 debates (1- Request to constitute a Board to be known as the ‘National Board for the Development of Himalayan States with full financial assistance of the Union Government’, 2- Need to review the decision of Shri Muivah’s visit to his birth place in Manipur and 3- Statement made by the Minister of Finance on the issues relating to setting up of a Lok Pal) and asked 9 questions, which is a discouraging performance of an elected person representing one of the most economically backward and socially polarized parliamentary constituencies in the country- Outer Manipur.
As per the data, the national average for debates spoken is 38 and P D Rai from Sikkim has the highest number (70) of debates spoken. Most Northeastern states score higher than the national attendance average of 76%.
The national questions average is 300. Among the MPs from the northeastern states, Badruddin Ajmal (Assam) has asked the highest 320 number of questions in the parliament with Khagen Das (Tripura) a close second 310 questions.
Bijoya Chakravarty (Assam) has introduced the most number of private member bills (4). The national average for introduction of private member bills is 0.8.
DETAIL PERFORMANCE OF MPs FROM NORTHEASTERN STATES OF INDIA
|
MP name |
State |
Constituency |
Political party |
Debates |
Private Member Bills |
Questions |
Attendance |
Notes |
| Ninong Ering** |
Arunachal Pradesh | Arunachal East | INC | 19 | 0 | 26 | 88% |
|
| Takam Sanjoy | Arunachal Pradesh | Arunachal West | INC | 5 | 0 | 76 | 63% | |
| Badruddin Ajmal | Assam | Dhubri | AUDF | 30 | 0 | 320 | 49% | |
| Bijoy Krishna Handique** | Assam | Jorhat | INC | 0 | 0 | 1 | 92% |
|
| Bijoya Chakravarty | Assam | Gauhati | BJP | 37 | 4 | 53 | 84% | |
| Biren Singh Engti | Assam | Autonomous District | INC | 2 | 0 | 0 | 96% | |
| Dip Gogoi | Assam | Kaliabor | INC | 0 | 0 | 0 | 79% | |
| Ismail Hussain | Assam | Barpeta | INC | 0 | 0 | 0 | 94% | |
| Joseph Toppo | Assam | Tezpur | AGP | 21 | 0 | 147 | 76% | |
| Kabindra Purkayastha | Assam | Silchar | BJP | 34 | 1 | 130 | 87% | |
| Lalit Mohan Suklabaidya | Assam | Karimganj | INC | 24 | 0 | 22 | 95% | |
| Paban Singh Ghatowar** | Assam | Dibrugarh | INC | 9 | 0 | 18 | 91% |
|
| Rajen Gohain | Assam | Nawgong | BJP | 8 | 0 | 87 | 53% | |
| Ramen Deka | Assam | Mangaldoi | BJP | 62 | 2 | 178 | 83% | |
| Ranee Narah** | Assam | Lakhimpur | INC | 3 | 0 | 7 | 83% |
|
| Sansuma Khunggur Bwiswmuthiary | Assam | Kokrajhar | BPF | 51 | 0 | 100 | 64% | |
| Thangso Baite | Manipur | Outer Manipur | INC | 3 | 0 | 9 | 98% | |
| Thokchom Meinya | Manipur | Inner Manipur | INC | 55 | 1 | 204 | 99% | |
| Agatha K. Sangma** | Meghalaya | Tura | NCP | 0 | 0 | 0 | 49% |
|
| Vincent H Pala** | Meghalaya | Shillong | INC | 3 | 0 | 28 | 84% |
|
| C. L. Ruala | Mizoram | Mizoram | INC | 2 | 0 | 12 | 96% | |
| C. M. Chang** | Nagaland | Nagaland | NPF | 1 | 0 | 33 | 78% |
|
| Prem Das Rai | Sikkim | Sikkim | SDF | 70 | 1 | 180 | 87% | |
| Baju Ban Riyan | Tripura | Tripura East | CPI(M) | 6 | 0 | 0 | 85% | |
| Khagen Das | Tripura | Tripura West | CPI(M) | 37 | 1 | 310 | 75% | |
| Table prepared by: PRS Legislative Research
Note: Ministers represent the government in debates, and they do not sign the attendance register, ask questions, or introduce private member bills. ** Participation details for this MP are available until October, 2012 as he was appointed a Minister then. |
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